Ask Good Questions 

 

Asking good questions is one of the foundational piece of having conversation with other people. So how does this translate into self-confidence?
When you ask good questions, people respond to you in a positive manner. You get to build “social points” for being a good conversationalist. People are attracted to you because you know how to talk to them. People starts to like you because you know how to steer a conversation by asking the right questions. People will like you because you keep making them talk about themselves. So learn to ask good questions and learn to ask the right questions.
Good questions are most often about the person you’re talking to. So ask questions based on their interests, their job, and their achievements. You not only help their self-esteem; you also help yours! This is a win-win situation for the both of you.

Action Guide:

Think of some questions you can ask a friend to help his or her self-esteem. These questions will differ based on their situation. Some examples are: A – What’s it like to be promoted? B – You seem to enjoy your job. Can you give me some advice on how I can do the same? C – You’re really good at what you do, what’s your schedule like?

Manage Your Highs and Lows

There are times when you would feel like you’re on top of the world. And then there are times when you would feel like you’re on the lowest of the lows. Your ability to manage your highs and lows will determine whether you will become successful or not. So here’s a truth bomb for you. Accept now that some shitty things may happen to you. Accept now that failure is going to be part of the process. If you’re building something good for yourself, then it must be hard, and the harder it is, the more likely you are to experience some failure along the way. But failing doesn’t have to mean that you lost. The good news is life almost always give us a second chance, a third chance, a fourth, and so on. If you get some wins, go ahead and celebrate. But then go back to work after a little bit of celebration. If you get some losses, go cry if you must. Eat your ice cream to make yourself feel good. Then go back to the drawing board and make a list of lessons you learned from that loss. Then put your head down and get back to work.

Action Guide:

Celebrate all your wins by giving yourself some kind of reward for a job well done. Don’t overdo it! The type of win you have should match your reward. Got a promotion? Get that guitar you’ve been dreaming of, not the new BMW. Deal with losses by acknowledging your pain and then start working out the solution to your problems.